CYFS - my hideous experience with them: My experience with Child Youth and Family

CYFS - my hideous experience with them: My experience with Child Youth and Family

life not being a mum anymore

yep so thats whats happened im now not a woman who has a child to care for- when i started to snap out the fact my that my son was not coming back- i had to face the fact that his bedroom had to be emptied and his things needed packing up- so i bit my lip aend took a deep breathe and faced his room. and there were all his toys where he had last played with them - the last clothes he had worn- and his little fluffy rug he took to bed everynight, all his things just left as if he just disappeared. i couldnt handle it man it shattered me, i didnt no what to do i just wanted to die. i couldnt pack up my sons things- i just bawled my eyes out everytime i touched something of his.
then came the feeling of what is this all about im here for my son - hes not here- what do i DO

CYFS - my hideous experience with them: My experience with Child Youth and Family

CYFS - my hideous experience with them: My experience with Child Youth and Family

corruptness of the system

corruption in the system now should not people be aware of this, I guess you only would be unless you actually experience it yourself. I could not believe that it went to the level that it did. anyhow my aim is to actually tell you what I experience from cyfs themselves like I said I wrote it all down in a diary and I hope this expresses to the system at least the human side to it and for other people who are touched by cyfs that what you are experienceing is normal and you are not going crazy.
I think it took me about 3 days to truely believe my son wasnt coming back I kinda went into shock i suppose, there was a total denial happening. on the 3rd day I recieved a phone call from the social worker Mellissa feildson asking me to come into the office and discuss my sons future and to work out some sort of a plan- in my mind I was thinking what is this woman on she thinks I want to go and see HER . So I said hey you took my son I do not want to talk to you or even look at you, I said to her that I wouldnt want to be in the same room as the person that signed a pieace of paper to have MY son taken and hung up on her - you have to realise I was beginning to become ver distressed and my head was all over the place- how could Cyfs possibly think that anyone that had just had their child taken from them be able to make any rational and sane decision about such a important situation as your child

Cyfs called me the other day and asked me if I wanted supervised visits to my son- what a joke man this is the little boy that I have raised through his life from the day he was born until he was nine years old. It was proved in court that there were no care and protection issues for my son at all and still I am not allowed to see him for more than 2 hours a week unsupervised- I told them never to bother ringing me again and any correspondance from them to me can be written and posted - I dont trust them they are out right liars and anyone that is going through this trust me they are Cyfs that is are blantant liars.-

I would love to hear from other people who have had their children taken by Cyfs. I kept a diary from the day they took my son and wrote down everything about my experience of losing my son and the incredible emotional side of it all and to add to all that the experience of dealing with Cyfs themselves and the lies that they tell.
Then dealing with the family court now come on arnt they just the most horribleist people you could ever deal with.
No-one could have told me about the effect this would have had on me, no one could have, There is support for people that have their children uplifted, the only port of call you end up left with are the horrible legal aide lawyers that milk the system for all it worth, and they generally advise you in a direction that supports their own means of making a income.
so you can imagine what reaction I have experienced by taking a stand against Cyfs and not allowing myself to be bullied by them - will in my next posting I will write of some of my hideous experiences with the ever awful Child youth and family

I had no idea Cyfs were planning on taking my son - I had very little idea as to how the system it self worked I had heard bits here and there and in my own way listened- but boy I now wish that I listened and listened hard- SO I learnt the hard way all by myself , what a bunch of liers Cyfs are there lies are out of this world and a Judge listens to them What a joke